YOU control the odds

“I can’t wait until I graduate… until I get that job.. marry that man..” “I would be so happy if I lost weight.. Had more money.. lived there….” These are all common phrases heard daily. People wishing and wanting in hopes for a happy future, waiting for that certain circumstance to create happiness for themselves. Something strange happens when and if these do come. Often, that happiness still seems to be lost, hidden in something new, something different, or better than what they have. Even though what they have is what they have been wishing for all along.

The truth is, if you are constantly dwelling on something that has already happened, and feel as if you will never be happy again, well you may never be. The same as if you are constantly thinking about the future and how you will be happy once a certain something happens. What if I told you, that is all your imagination talking. That happiness will come, those things you imagined to make you the happiest person alive, they will come, and you will indeed feel very happy, but not forever. All of these feelings will lead to more of the same feelings of longing, leaving you constantly unhappy and wishing for more.

Think of a time where you got something new, something you had been dreaming about for a while, maybe the new iPhone. When you got it you were so happy and excited, as time passed it was just a phone, then it got a little old and you hated it. The newer iPhone came out, and now that is what you want, making you dislike your phone you were so happy to have even more. A constant cycle of temporary happiness has evolved.

It is truly impossible to be happy every single minute, but I guarantee you it is much harder to be a happy person while constantly dwelling on the past and future, the important time is the now. This is the only time you have the opportunity to make it whatever you want it to be, and to see and live your life how it is now. When you are constantly caught up in the past or future, you may not realize it, but you are missing out on your now, your life. When you are fully attentive in the now, you are there, you are present, you will see things you never saw before. While lost in your thoughts and emotions, you are almost wearing all black glasses, blinding you from all life and happiness surrounding you.

Once you find happiness and acceptance within yourself, those small things that you believed will create your happiness, they will come. They will come as parts of your life and continue to come as long as you believe in them and believe in yourself. There is no need to compare to others because one thing about life is, well, it is life. People are all different, some born rich, some poor, some sick, some healthy, some big, and some small. Uncontrollable characteristic that can be changed, but not by jealousy and aversion, but by passion and self-love. Beneficial changes cannot be made by hate, but by a positive vision of what can be and will be with the right intentions. You are who you wish to be, and do anything you wish to do, I promise. It will not be easy, and there is one way to make it possible, whether the odds are on your side or against you, believe you can do it, believe you can be, believe you can reach to any point no matter the obstacles, and you will get there.